Ray’s and my homes are our holy sanctuaries, where only good energy is invited in. We spend a great deal of time at home, enjoying each other’s company, and that of our guests. We’ve been good stewards of the homes we’ve occupied in Brookline and Gloucester, MA, Hillsboro, NH, Atlanta, GA, New York, NY, Provincetown, MA, San Francisco, CA, Naples and Ft. Lauderdale, FL, and Tupper Lake, NY. These photos are of homes of which we were guardians, South Haven in Ft. Lauderdale, and The Lodge at Hemlock Ledge in Tupper Lake. Today we live in Wilton Manors, Florida.

Wilton Manors, FL

Wilton Manors, FL

Wilton Manors, FL

Wilton Manors, FL

Wilton Manors, FL

Wilton Manors, FL

Tom, Kathy and Brian

Ray and Brian

Brian and Ray on mules at the Grand Canyon

Brian and Ray ride elephant in Jaipur after Brian’s corporate training on LGBT workplace issues in Mumbai.

Brian and Ray joined for dinner their Goldman Sachs hosts in Hong Kong.

Brian with Jeremy

Brit

The Lodge at Hemlock Ledge, NY

Ray Struble, one of seven brothers from Wichita, KS, and I, one of seven from Detroit, met in Boston, through Dignity, on May 4, 1976. Lincoln is our third dog. We name our dogs after famous gay people

Lincoln

Brian with Ron Robbins

I’ve been fortunate to have been surrounded many very fine people in my life. My best friends, of whom there have been many, touched and transformed me very deeply. When you meet me, you meet my best friends, as they are inextricably part of my soul. Easily, a hundred people fit the description of best friend in my life. They have come and gone. And, hundreds more people have been very close to me. There are way too many faces to show you, so, I’ve selected two people, both of whom have died, who were higher angels on my journey. They are Alison Deming and Mary Lee Tatum. If you know them, you understand how they touched my life. If you don’t know them, it would require too much space to adequately describe our friendships.